@birdie1216 Signs that the marriage will fail during wedding planning #wedding #weddingplanning
Do telltale signs of a future divorce actually reveal themselves by your wedding day? Yes, according to an experienced wedding planner from Lakeville, Minnesota (above).
Robin ‘Birdie’ Yarusso’s video on the subject has taken TikTok by storm with her keen insights honed from a two decade career working with couples. She’s says these predictors aren’t infallible, but nonetheless pretty reliable indicators. As she put it,
“there are clear behaviors that come out during the wedding planning process that indicate larger issues.”
Take heed. Here’s a recap:
Indicator #1: Smashing cake into each other’s faces. This blog has railed against this practice for years. Does an act of violence really seem like a sound way to launch a life together? Ms. Yarusso says no:
“For some reason, none of my brides and grooms who did that are still together.”
Sure, it can seem funny at the time. But what bride wants her hair, make up, and gown besmirched after spending a boatload of money trying to look her best?
What bride wants photographs and videos hanging around displaying her public humiliation at the hands of her (usually) bigger and stronger partner? Hmmm … may not be a good idea, and an experienced wedding planner suggests you nix the idea.
Indicator #2: Budget dishonesty. What happens is the couple sets a budget, and only one of the couple heeds it. The other ignores the ballooning price tag and goes behind the partner’s back racking up debt, even telling vendors not to tell her fiancé about it.
Indicator #3: Unchecked mother-in-laws. If the son … or daughter … doesn’t check their mom when she oversteps in the wedding planning process, it’s a tell that there’s going to be more in-law problems down the road. Not good for the health of a marriage.
Indicator #4: Husband apathy. Ms. Yarusso observes a common scenario where the groom-to-be has a single task in the wedding planning process, and when it’s crunch time, he hasn’t lifted a finger. As she put it, he leaves an impression that he “doesn’t care about the wedding.”
So, are these tell-tale signs of a future divorce? In an interview with Newsweek, Yarusso put it this way:
”We all know there are common reasons for a divorce. Money, trust, contempt, boundaries. If I have a bride that is hiding the true cost of flowers from her future husband, that falls right into money and trust.If I have a mother of the groom that is overstepping and her son doesn’t correct her, chances are that is going to have an impact on his marriage long-term. How do you think it’ll be when they have children? It’s a clear lack of boundaries.”
One woman responded on TikTok:
“OMG … divorced after 9 years of marriage. All things occurred.”
Interesting food for thought. If any of these telltale signs pop up as you plan your wedding, you’re prime candidates for pre-marriage counseling. Might save you a lifetime of grief.
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